Change The Step

Despite what they try to convince you
  love changes people
And people change for love
But don’t mistake
  there is a clear difference
   between changing yourself
    for someone
     and doing so
      to fit someone

When it comes to it
  you should only change
   if it’s making you better
Like figuring out if it’s
  “you and me” or “you and I”
Take out the other person
  and see what remains

Don’t change if you think it’s for them
  as if that would keep them
   as if you could convince them to stay
    as if a different you
     could say the right words
      do the right things
       be the right one
Chipping away at yourself
  into something you’re not
   just so they spare some time for you

And some people
  don’t change at all
Some believe
  that they’ll be loved
   regardless
And that may be a step in love
  but it isn’t the full thing

You can’t avoid changing
  can’t avoid having to

And I think that was a problem with us
  because I know I had changed
   but I don’t think you felt the need to
And you didn’t need to
  it wasn’t on you to change

There was no pressure for either of us
  and that doesn’t seem right
I would have loved you as you were
  always

But that’s…
  …not love
It’s only a step
And so, what we had changed
  but we didn’t change with each other 

A Poem by Colm Horgan